It’s my quest to create learning and development opportunities that are ripe for conversation.  Conversation that leads to action. Last week I was facilitating a workshop on Dealing with Difficult Behaviors.  Participants were asked to look into their own worlds – yes, it can be a scary situation, and identify one conversation they’d like to have a Re-Do on.  

After some initial conversation, the questions started to fly.  

Yeah, but…I tried that before and it’s not going to work, what should I do?

They’re a jerk – and of course they are going to act the same way, what should I do?

I tend to be simple in my approach on this one…do  YOU want to change the way in which you have conversations with this person? It’s a very simple YES or NO.  No explanation is needed.  I just need to know if you want to or not.  If you’re interested – then we have one conversation.  If you’re not interested, we have a different kind of conversation.

This is the JUICY part!

Engaging someone in a way where it’s clear there is going to be some responsibility to move things forward is what I am about.  It comes out in a number of ways in the workshops I facilitate.  

This commitment to action – really doing something – is what’s needed if we truly expect anything to be different. Since I’ve only figured out how to change the way I approach things – and can’t change the way others approach it.  I choose to start there.

Where do you choose to start?